Archive for October, 2012

Emotional Freedom is a Physical Pursuit

Emotional freedom and personal power can be found through a practice of feeling emotions, rather than denying them, repressing them, or escaping them.

Some experts claim that the experience of a single emotion lasts about 90 seconds.  My experiments bear this out.   But, most of us have been trained to avoid feeling emotions because they are often messy and unpleasant.  Besides, emotions might taint your intellectual knowing and cause out-of-control behavior.  We think of scientific types as pointy-eared Vulcans, but scientific study actually concludes that without the involvement of emotions, people make consistently lousy decisions (Damasio, The Feeling of What Happens, October, 2000.)

Nevertheless, most of us carry around resistance to feelings that is far worse than the actual feeling would ever be, and we send our consciousness to dwell in the past or future so we don’t have to feel unpleasant things now.  We try to solve problem emotions in our heads, exert influence with our intellects – and it just doesn’t work.  The brain has far less electromagnetic power than the heart which is the seat of emotions.

If you will simply feel your next emotion, in your body, without resistance, I can promise you that life will be incrementally easier.  A way to do this is to time your next feeling – especially if it is an unpleasant one. You will find, as I did, that it lasts oh, about 90 seconds.  While you experiment with simply feeling a less-than-thrilling feeling, notice where you feel it in your body and then, consciously relax that part of your body.  Ahhhh.  That’s better yet.

When the feeling has passed, you will find it is…gone!  You can unload whole piles of emotional baggage, in this way, far faster than any airport employee.  In fact, this is exactly what a number of high end self help methods do to help people be more successful and happy.

Feeling emotions and letting them go has huge benefits. You may have thought people respond to your outfit, your dental work or the quality of your face or figure.  Actually they respond to how you feel or your vibe.  When you carry less tension in the body you feel better to yourself and others.  When you let go of your resistance to emotions, you are able to stay in the present moment.

It may not seem that way, but in the present moment is the only place you can be, really, and it is a place of immense personal power.

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Relationship with an Unknown Artist

I’m really enjoying a new relationship with someone I don’t know at all.

Many of our interactions with strangers are depressing:  profane graffiti, the person who steals my parking space, dogwalkers who leave doo doo on my lawn, and pick pockets.  It is a refreshing switch to be affected pleasantly by an unknown other.

I have found a wonderful place to walk.  Though it is in the middle of the city, the path follows the river and is sunken in thick woods.  Each time I walk there, the path is decorated differently.

Someone has been this way before me, leaving roses on a tree stump, arranging logs and limbs artistically, arraying pine cones and berries on a dead branch.

These arrangements are subtle and pleasing to the eye.  Sometimes they are obvious.  Sometimes, they are tucked away in the trees and I have to really look for them.  Other times, I feel a slight dissonance and realize I’m looking at pinecones hanging…from a maple!  I look closer to see that these were artfully attached to the branch.

Often, these arrangements appear to me to be woodland altars.  Perhaps I’m reading too much into them.  Whatever they are, they delight me.

I picture the artist coming along the river path at dusk or maybe dawn.  I assume it is a female who decorates these woods.  I sometimes see her as a high school senior, driven by hormones to express herself so fully and beautifully.

Other times, I see her as a woman in her forties, coming out in the early morning, while her children are still in bed, and playing; decorating the woods just for fun – fun she might not get any other time of day.

Once in a while, I know she is a compulsive designer, who must arrange things wherever she goes because it is simply in her blood to do so.  This is how she put in her ten thousand hours to mastery of design and the artful arrangement of what is at hand.

Whoever she – or he – is who decorates the woods along the Rouge River, I am uplifted every day by the artistry.

The Single Most Enlightened Interaction of Them All

Self love is something that never made any sense to me at all.  Until last year, I understood the concept only intellectually, but didn’t really know what the big deal was.  Suddenly I saw that a lack of self love was affecting all my endeavors.  I didn’t really think that I was not good enough, but I didn’t feel a lot of love for myself.  I put my needs second, third or even last, and if someone had an issue with me, I assumed I was at least 90% responsible.

One day last year, I read that a person who has never experienced unconditional love or brilliant success, can have those feelings downloaded, using Theta Healing®.   Once the person has experienced those feelings, he or she can attract experiences that resonate with the feelings.  I decided I needed to know what it felt like to receive unconditional love, so I booked a Theta Healing® session to “download” this feeling.   What a difference it made!

All my interactions were changed.  I felt more love for and from others.  I also saw very clearly how all love in my life; given or received, originated in me.  Self love is a keystone for enlightened interactions. Most importantly, self love helps you follow your life’s true path.

Long before I experienced unconditional love through Theta Healing®, I had experienced an inner force which, while small, was totally invincible.  I could drown out its message for a while, but not for long.  I could ignore this force for a week, but not a month.  This force was the drive to be authentically me.

I drowned out the small soft voice of this inner force with intellectual chatter.  (I spent many years of my life training my intellectual chatter.)  I could talk myself into this or that course of action, but could not make them work because the force of this inner force made me feel bad if I did things were not in line with my authentic desires.

This force speaks to us in feelings.  You can tell in your body whether you are going the correct direction.  You will feel free and easy if you are.  You will feel resistance and irritation if you are not.  Martha Beck calls this a sense of “shackles off” and “shackles on.”  If you want to understand this concept better, just take a look at your list of things to do right now.  See how each item makes you feel.

I recently had a session with Jeannette Maw, who calls herself the Good Vibe Coach.  Jeannette is full of good vibes and I felt better just hearing her laugh.  After a long and detailed session, she said, “It’s easy.  Decide what you want and then do what feels good.”  My first thought was, “She’s insane!”  But, since what I had been doing hadn’t been working too well, and Jeannette seemed to be happy and successful, I chose to think shw was taking her own advice.

The first result of doing what felt good was a lot of free time.  I was shocked at how many things on my “to do” list did not feel good at all.  All the marketing activities I thought I must do to get business, made me feel like throwing up.  I let them go, thinking I would never get clients, but strangely, feeling hopeful.   Interestingly, the activities I did feel like pursuing resulted in four new clients who are very well suited to me.

Oddly, slacking off like this, I’m getting better results in many areas of life.  I was forcing myself to exercise, but I find that if I listen to my feelings, I will desire to get out and get moving on a fairly regular basis.  Once, I forced myself to eat salads, following my feelings seems to result in a beautifully balanced diet over time, eating salad only when I really want to.

Strangely, my feelings have led me to do some things that no one else understands and I’m trusting that those actions will also bring good results in the long run.  If nothing else, they have created a “shackles off” feeling in the short run.

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